Carpe Rubber Diem! — Seize the Rubber Day! Your fetish is a gift. Celebrate it! Wear your rubber mindfully and with a sense of purpose and devotion to yourself. Let … Continue reading Carpe Rubber Diem!.
Carpe Rubber Diem! — Seize the Rubber Day!
Your fetish is a gift. Celebrate it!
One way to do celebrate it by wearing rubber mind fully and with a sense of purpose and devotion to yourself. Let it add new levels of richness, passion and depth to your life well beyond the sexual side of it. Make it “sacred” in your mind. Ritualize it. Wear your rubber as a “symbolic action with style” which speaks to your mind and heart but does not need to make sense in a literal context. Cultivate a sensitivity to symbolism and metaphors. Use your rubber rituals to provoke your imagination and creativity in the mundane acts of everyday life. In a life animated by rituals there are no insignificant things. Think of your garments as a “shrine” to your inner being. Try doing simple rubber acts every day, solely and deliberately, for the purpose of doing those acts as an end in themselves. They do not need to be grandiose or lengthy or involved. Doing them with regularity is much more important. Focus your attention on the “now” of the rubber on your body. Practice rubber mindfulness. Keep in mind that rituals are symbolic acts. Wear rubber for the sake of wearing rubber.
(Note that a “ritual” is an act or symbolic gesture deliberately intended to mark an event as special or sacred. It need not be logically connected to nature of the event itself. Shaking hands when you meet someone is a classic example of a ritual to symbolically mark the occasion as being special. It can be totally spontaneous, unrehearsed, unscripted and it need not be repeated. It is the intent of the ritual that matters. It is very different from a “habit” which is mindless repetition of a mundane act. A “habit” lacks the deliberate intent of a ritual.)
This does NOT mean that you have to wear several layers of rubber for hours and hours, totally enclosed, etc. Certainly, these more demanding, intense activities can be rituals, but there are also many, many much simpler, much less demanding rituals as well. For example, you might keep a box of disposable latex gloves in your car and create a daily ritual of deliberately wearing a rubber glove only on your left hand during your commute to work. This simple act, done regularly and with a sense of purpose and ritual symbolism, becomes an act of devotion. It is a way to “seize the rubber day” and express your life more creatively as an “art”, which makes it more worth living.
Research the concept of “mindfulness”. This is a very simple meditative technique that anyone can do virtually any time, any where and for very short bursts of time — even just a few seconds at a time.. It can be readily adapted to your rubber rituals and will add significant depth to them and, ultimately, richness to your life.
Be an explorer of your soul — a pioneer. Look for possible pathways to spirituality through your fetish. Think of yourself as a kind of “Priest/ess” of your own temple. Seek value, virtue and substance well beyond mere sexuality in your fetish. Use your fetish energy to create a personal culture to improve the quality of your life and, perhaps, enhancing it’s spirituality whilst not disturbing or conflicting with your real “religion”. Think of it more like an “art of living” concept much like Yoga or meditation.
For whatever reason, your fetish is part of you — it runs deeply within you. It’s a fundamental part of your identity. Do something positive with it! Make it a creative expression of your soul.
Make your fetish your “art”! Celebrate rubber!
Seize the Rubber Day! Carpe Rubber Diem!
Seize the Rubber Day! Carpe Rubber Diem!
What is “Living in Rubber”?
“Living in Rubber” probably means different things to different people. However, there are probably some elements we all pretty much hold in common.
Mostly, Living in Rubber (“LIR”) is an attitude (rather than a specific act) that you define for yourself. It’s a sense of integrating and “normalizing” your fetish with your everyday life. It’s like living a mantra of “I will wear as much rubber as possible, as long as possible and as often as possible“. The key word here, of course, is “possible”. It is a lifestyle choice in which we deliberately and consciously decide to celebrate our fetish to the greatest extent within our means.
LIR is based in an almost pathological compulsion shared by most deeper Rubberists to be totally enclosed in rubber 24 hours a day, 7 days a week. This is the special dream that much of the Rubberist Tribe shares. Of course, very few people can actually fulfill this dream. Reality gets in the way. Most people also need to live “regular” lives in which wearing rubber 24/7 is significantly interrupted by family, jobs and society in general. The high cost of latex garments is another significant factor. There are also issues related to body overheating, skin problems, etc.
Consequently, the act of “living in rubber” is, of necessity, a symbolic, ritualized gesture toward the higher ideal of being total enclosure all of the time. It’s really more about not only accepting one’s fetish but also fully recognizing it as our primary identity and being joyful in that. LIR is a celebration of who we are. We make our fetish sacred. We give it meaning.
We make it special… deliberately!
Our culture is obsessively oriented to accomplish goals. So much so, that we miss the richness of the striving.
Anaerobic means “living, active, occurring, or existing in the absence of free oxygen”, as opposed to aerobic which means “living, active, or occurring only in the presence of oxygen.” (Wikipedia)
Total Enclosure-ists are big fans of “living anaerobically”.
In “Becoming Rubber”, protagonist Carlee Koster finds herself on a spiritual Quest in which she is delightfully compelled to “go so far into my fetish that I might even come out the other side.”
Well, thank you, Carlee. That sort of explains the whole “Deep Rubberist” enchilada.
A Deep Rubberist is a sort of “nunk” (nun + monk) focused on a path of deep inner exploration. They often dive so deeply into their fetish that they often become non-binary. They fly solo..
IF I step back and try to describe the synthesis of what Moore, Csikszentmihalyi, Watts, and other authors have taught me, the words that first come to mind are “enchantment”, “attention” and “meaning”.
What is “enchantment? Why do we want it? This is a tough one to answer. Moore refers to it as a feeling that comes over us which affects our hearts and perceptions. It is something that controls and, perhaps even guides, affects, and “pushes” our lives in a particular direction. It could be thought of as a “magic spell” right out of a fairy tale such as Sleeping Beauty or Cinderella. What is the magic that makes Rubberists so attracted to rubber?
Fetish is a strong example of an enchantment.
Rubberists have been “enchanted” in the deepest sense of the word.
Meaning alludes to Purpose in the philosophical sense. The Greeks referred to this as “Entelechia” which means, roughly, “the drive from within to fulfill Purpose”. The Meaning we derive from fulfilling our Purpose is what gives value to our lives. Viktor Frankl and Csikszentmihalyi both suggest that the things we do which affect the course of history are what give the most Meaning to our lives. Of course, this is non-judgmental — if one negatively affects the future, there is still Meaning, but it is negative.
The pursuit of meaning is a primary source of enchantment. It engages us…it is Flow.
RubberNauting is an exploration in giving positive Meaning to our Rubber Fetish. It seeks to find ways to create value from this weird attraction we have for rubber. It seeks ways to do something positive, noteworthy, and honorable with our fetish– to somehow make the world a better place through it.
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A “Practice” is a rather elusive concept.
Thinking of your rubber fetish as a “practice” is a way of saying it has Purpose.
Your purpose may be to simply “feel good” or maybe it is a bit deeper. You may, for example, wear rubber to help you find your “center”. Some may think of a “heavy rubber session” as a way of cleansing themselves of the cares of the world. It may be a kind of catharsis, etc.
Purpose is a little bit different from having a “goal”. A goal, such as climbing a mountain or moving to Buenos Aires has a specific, identifyable ending. In contrast, a “practice” is open-ended. It is “what you do”, and always will. For example, the “practice” of a doctor is to heal the sick, which never really has an ending.
The process of thinking of doing your rubber fetish activities as part of your “Rubberist practice” gives them reason de ‘etre, or a sense of purpose. You do them for a reason. The more you can define or, at least explain, your purpose for wearing rubber, the more you justify and validate it to yourself and the rest of the world. (Hint: don’t get lost in psychobabble about how you got to be a Rubberist. Concentrate, instead, on why you find satisfaction in being one!)
Why do YOU “practice” your rubber fetish? Think about it!
If we are to find a way to adapt rubber fetish into a practice, we must find and define some challenges. We need to find or build some mountains to climb that somehow involve wearing rubber deeply. We’ll need a long-term goal — or ‘quest’ — to continually strive for and dump our passion into.
“Happiness comes from the pursuit of excellence” – Aristotle.
The act of developing some sort of skill set comes to mind. Skill development of any kind often implies a field of lifelong growth in the “pursuit of excellence”. It is an end in itself. What could Rubberists work at that inspires ongoing development of rubber-related skills or the acquisition of new knowledge or abilities? There are not many obvious avenues of skill-building that are specific to fetish.
The protagonist in the novel I am working on has submitted herself to her fetish as a sort of metaphorical “mistress” and wants nothing more than to please her. Her life mantra becomes “I will wear as much rubber as possible, as long as possible and as fully consciously as possible.”
Now there is a “mountain” you might climb.
On a larger scale, it is commonly thought of as being associated with the rejection of worldly cares, sensuality, and other “lower” aspects of life by ascetics so that they may concentrate all of their attention on their quest to find God, etc. They attempt to “banish awareness of the world”; they seek “freedom from distraction”. Of course, for ascetics, this thrust tends to color their whole lives all of the time. They renounce the world. The more formal versions of renunciation may involve taking a vow of some kind.
On a much smaller, shorter-term scale, much of the practice of meditation is based on the idea of renunciation, albeit for a very short term. Meditation generally involves focusing on one predesignated precept to the exclusion of all others. Here again, we see “freedom from distraction” as the goal. The difference is that the meditator’s session of “freedom from distraction” is usually a matter of minutes or hours whereas for the ascetic it is (ideally) prevalent during all of his waking hours and lasts a lifetime.
In a sense, the archetypal idea of Total (rubber) Enclosure is a kind of renunciation. It attempts to exclude all worldly and sensory stimuli except tactile on which it focuses almost exclusively on the sensation of latex on the skin. In theory, the totally enclosed subject cannot hear, see, smell or taste anything which, in turn, causes the mind to focus more fully on any remaining available stimuli. Tactile is the only remaining sense and it is “flooded” with the sensation of latex against the skin. In a sense, we are attempting to attain “freedom from distraction” so that we may more fully concentrate on the feel of the latex as a mantra.
However, this “renunciation” goes a step deeper. If we think of the latex total enclosure as a kind of temenos or “separating wall between the sacred and the mundane”, how could take this idea of “freedom from distraction” to the next level?